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What is Vulnerability? <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sometimes the answer is in the word itself. Vulnerability<\/em> comes from the Latin vulnerabilis<\/em> = vulnus<\/em> (wound) + abilis <\/em>(possibility). In the most literal sense, vulnerability means \u201cthe possibility of being wounded\u201d. Therefore, our vulnerability is our capacity to get hurt. <\/p>\n\n\n\n In psychology, vulnerability means we’re vulnerable to feeling emotional pain and getting hurt. Because pain is difficult to feel, we find ways to avoid being vulnerable to protect ourselves. What we need to understand is that we cannot fully protect ourselves from vulnerability because no human being is invulnerable. We are all capable of getting hurt.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Reading about the work of Bren\u00e9 Brown helped me understand what it means to be vulnerable. She unpacks vulnerability into three components:<\/p>\n\n\n\n What does vulnerability look like?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n When we feel vulnerable, a wound is being touched. Therefore, what feels vulnerable to you depends on the wounds you have.\u00a0For example, if you carry an abandonment wound, reaching out first or not hearing back could feel very vulnerable, because it opens the door to perceiving yourself as being ignored or left out. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Every day life situations that may require a bit of vulnerability<\/p>\n\n\n\n Situations that require more vulnerability:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Debunking Vulnerability Myths<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Myth<\/em>: <\/strong>Being vulnerable means being weak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Truth<\/em>: <\/strong>Weakness is the inability to be vulnerable. Being vulnerable means facing our wounds, stepping through fear and risking getting hurt, which requires inner strength and courage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When we\u2019re vulnerable, we\u2019re exposing a wound, without knowing if others will hold it gently or hurt us further. We need to understand that getting hurt is not weakness, it’s part of our nature as humans. Weakness means not being able to see and face our wounds, and build so many walls around them so no one, not even us, can see them. But anything that needs that many walls isn\u2019t strong, it\u2019s frail.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Being vulnerable is the opposite of being weak. Weakness is not being able to see our fragility, our insecurities, our fears, our wounds\u2026. our vulnerability. It requires tremendous strength and courage to face those sensitive, vulnerable places within us, and even more to let others see them. The way I see it, weakness is the inability, or fear, to be vulnerable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Myth:<\/em><\/strong> Talking about something emotionally intense means I am being vulnerable.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Truth:<\/em><\/strong> Vulnerability isn\u2019t about what or how much you share, it\u2019s about taking the risk of letting others see where you can get hurt. It\u2019s not about saying everything, but about saying what\u2019s true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n We\u2019re learning the language of mental health. Trauma, healing, anxiety\u2026 these words are everywhere now. This growing awareness makes me wonder whether we are actually becoming more open and vulnerable, or just becoming better at talking around it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n When I\u2019m unsure whether someone is being truly vulnerable, I pay attention to how I feel. Do I feel closer to them? Do I feel more empathy? Do I see more of who they are? Or do I feel a strange distance, even if they\u2019re sharing a lot? As if something\u2019s still guarded, and I don\u2019t really know them? It\u2019s easy to confuse awareness with emotional openness, but there is a difference. Since our vulnerability is our capacity to be wounded, being vulnerable has to do with our wounds, not with the topic or situation at hand. Talking about something intense or sharing a lot of details about your life doesn\u2019t necessarily mean you\u2019re being vulnerable.\u00a0We can speak about pain without ever truly revealing it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If you can talk about a delicate or emotional topic with ease, it is likely that: <\/p>\n\n\n\n You know you\u2019re being vulnerable when it requires you to step through fear and take the risk of getting hurt. It will most likely feel uncomfortable, and your body will reflect that. Perhaps your voice trembles, your heart races, your face flushes, you start to sweat, your posture changes, you talk more slowly or faster, etc.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Why is vulnerability necessary for growth and connection?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Being vulnerable is handing someone a fragile piece of your heart without knowing if they\u2019ll hold it with care or hurt it, but choosing to do it anyway.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Avoiding vulnerability might feel safer in the short term, but over time, it builds walls that keep closeness, love, and growth out.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If we want a real connection, we need moments of vulnerability, moments where we let ourselves be seen. It might feel uncomfortable, even scary, but vulnerability is the soil where transformation takes root, and what allows love and belonging to flourish. Without vulnerability, there is no real growth and connection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Pearl snail<\/em> by Anna Ruth, 2026<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Vulnerability was one of those concepts that once I understood it, I couldn’t believe there was a time I didn’t know what it meant. 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